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Parenting is not easy.

What does a first time parent know about raising a child. NOTHING – you learn as you go which obviously is not very efficient.

When our parents were growing up the house hold used to be much larger. Almost always more than one family was under a roof and even if that wasnt the case for our generation, our parents atleast had lived in households where the young were being taken care of together by the larger family unit.

I am talking about the simple things – how to keep a child from breaking stuff for instance or eat things he picks up from under the carpet?? Do you yell at the child – slap em a few times – try to talk them?? How do you handle children who still cant talk yet?? etc etc

When I was growing up, when my grandmother was still alive, that was a great help to my mother. My younger cousins growing up didnt have that and they are kinda brats if you know what I mean.

I cant say its the parents fault. They got no help – they have to figure it out as they go and thats not easy. Throughout the ages the parents and the grandparents raised the young. The work force now it would seem is cut in half.

Educated and financially well off parents, great people on every account

– but raising children just doesn’t come with a manual.


August 12, 2009 - Posted by | Random

1 Comment »

  1. I’m a first time parent, and I certainly know first hand how tough parenting is. It took sometime, but I did get the hang of it.

    First 20 days, month was the toughest. Unfortunately my mother couldn’t be with us for first twenty days and those were scary twenty days. Even now when I think of that time, I get a weird feeling. First three nights, my mother in law came for our aide, and all I had to do was carry my little Soha, fed, bathed, and diapers changed. She gave us a 101 on taking care of a newborn, but as if we could manage. She left birthday, and nightmare started. Changing diapers was tougher than sowing, growing and harvesting a cotton crop all together. We messed up sheets, potty was all over my baby’s body, and somehow diaper leaked everytime. Getting her to burp became a bigger hassle than getting a US visa. The day passed and came the night. This is when challange began. She just wouldn’t sleep and we didn’t knew how to make her. She started crying around two. We tried everything that we knew to make her stop crying, but to no vail. At 3, my wife started crying too, making it even more tough. I rang my mother in law, told her the situation and asked if I could bring the two to her, and she obliged. I packed, stuffed them in car and drove them entire length of Lahore to drop them off.

    This is the story of the first night we handled our child independently. I have million more such stories of difficulties of first time parents to share.

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    Comment by Sikander Fayyaz | August 13, 2009 | Reply

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